Wording is everything!

Written goals and mantras can be a very powerful tool to reach your subconscious mind to bring about change.  As you read my article below, which I wrote in 2001 for my clinical hypnosis clients, please know that mantras, although different than goals, should be treated equally, using the same guidelines.

A Simplified Background On How The Mind Works

Putting your goals in writing can be a powerful suggestion to the subconscious mind.  What is your subconscious mind?  It’s the “inner” part of your mind and has many powerful functions:

Functions of the Subconscious Mind:

• Emotions
• Habits
• Impulsive Behaviors
• Permanent Memory
• Imagination

The subconscious mind is like a child, and needs to be told what to do. It doesn’t know the difference between “good” or “bad”, it just follows orders. Rather than evaluating the verbiage to determine its meaning, it just takes what you say at its literal face value.  There’s no judgment of what’s good, bad, positive, negative, direct, or implied, etc.  That why I recommend keeping your self-talk very positive. For example: If you were to constantly think to yourself, “I’m broke… I’m fat… I take the worst photos”, the subconscious mind takes that as a direct order from you and has a “Ok, I’ll help you create that” response.  When you focus on something, even if it’s on something you *don’t* want, your subconscious will help you create it, without a judgement of whether it’s good, bad, wanted, or not wanted.  Simply focusing on it and repeating that thought in your mind over and over becomes a command.

Again, It doesn’t know “good” or “bad”, it just follows your orders.  As long as you agree with the statement (that’s another story), and if it’s coming from your voice, then it bypasses the critical factor.

CRITICAL FACTOR: The critical factor of the mind is the filtering system for external sources. If someone was to say to you “Go rob a bank”, or “Quack like a duck”, and if these statements were against your moral or ethical code, those words would be rejected.  If you’re in hypnosis when these words or phrases are said to you, and you disagree with the moral ethical code behind the phrase, you would likely pop right out of the hypnotic state – and most likely be irritated.

Functions of the Conscious Mind:

• Analyze
• Rationalize
• Temporary Memory
• Willpower

Writing Goals &/or Mantras

When you write goals in your own handwriting, you stimulate 3 modalities: touch, sight, and sound. By going through the motion of writing your goals, you feel yourself writing them, see them written on the page, and hear the words in your mind. The more carefully the goals are written, the more benefits you receive.

A study was done at Harvard University regarding students who wrote down their goals -vs- students who did not write down goals. During one year, only 3% of the student population wrote down their goals. Thirty (30) years later, the goal-writing students earned more money individually, than the remaining 97% student population combined. That’s how powerful writing your goals can be.

If you’re interested in having similar results, then follow these simple instructions.

There are 4 P’s involved in writing successful goals / mantras:

Personal: These goals are about YOU, so what’s the most personal word you know?  When you leave out WHO these goals are about, your subconscious will have a way of getting out of it. Your subconscious might react with, “well, you didn’t say that it was about me!”  Remember, the subconscious needs it spelled out clearly because it doesn’t analyze, rationalize, nor assume.

Present Tense:  By using words like “will”, “want”, “wish”, “hope”, and “going to” (etc), you push the goal further and further away from you. Either write them as if the goal is being achieved today, or set a specific time when the goal will be achieved.  Also by using present tense action words, you are making “claim” to the desired goal “now”.  By doing so, your subconscious helps you to achieve that goal.  Example:  Look at the different between these two written goals.  “I will drink 8 ounces of water a day”.  vs “I drink 8 ounces of water a day”.   The first one is wishy-washy – you’re still in the planning phase, rather than ready to get to work on achieving your goal.  Your subconscious interprets “will” as “well… someday, but not now”.  See the difference?

Positive:   Write what you WANT! The subconscious mind ignores the word “not” and focuses on the commanding words, action words, or descriptions.  Find the action words in this sentence: I don’t want to be fat. (“be fat” is the command).    Can you imagine what would happen if your mind was constantly hearing the phrase “be fat…. be fat… be fat” all day??  Yikes!  Instead, use affirmations like, “I am slender”,  “I am at a healthy body weight”, or “I weigh 120 lbs”, etc.  Your subconscious reacts with, “Ok, let me help you create that!”

Precise:  If you write down that you want to lose weight, and you lose 2 pounds, you have met your goal.  Congratulations!!  But is that what you really wanted?  If not, then precision is your answer.  The following joke is an example of how important precision can be.

A man is walking down the beach and comes across an old bottle. he picks it up, pulls out the cork, and out pops a genie.

“Thank you for freeing me from the bottle,” the genie says. “In return, I will grant you three wishes.”

“Great!”, says the man. “I always dreamed of this, and I know exactly what I want. First, I want $1,000,000,000 in a Swiss bank account.” Poof! There is a flash of light, and a piece of paper with account numbers in his hand.

“Next,” he continues, “I want a brand new red Ferrari.” Poof! A bright red Ferrari appears next to him.

“Finally,” he says, “I want to be irresistible to women.” Poof! he turns into a box of chocolates.

The FemDom World

It’s very easy to take these tips and apply them into the FemDom world – the tips that I’ve listed above always apply, it’s just a different subject matter.

So if you enjoy chanting mantras, as a form of improving the way that you serve your Domme, put these guidelines to work and notice what changes you experience in the days, weeks, and months to come.

Have fun!